A pregnant woman is putting her needs first — despite it upsetting her husband.
In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum, the woman who is 27 weeks pregnant said she wants to sleep in a separate bedroom from her spouse due to his body odor making her feel sick.
“Smells have been a big trigger for me this entire pregnancy,” the expectant mother wrote.
Detailing that the odors that trigger her most are “food, smoke and cologne,” the woman said her husband “works in a restaurant and smokes, so it’s difficult being within a few feet of him at most times unless he’s freshly showered.”
According to the woman, her husband “works late hours and usually just wants to sleep when he gets home, which I get.”
“However,” she continued, “he comes to bed smelling like restaurant food and smoke which will wake me up [from] a dead sleep because my smell is triggered.”
Despite asking her husband “if he can shower quick before coming to bed” — which he declines to do because he “just wants to sleep” — the woman said her partner thought a good alternative would be to utilize body spray before bed.
But, the Redditor explained that her husband’s decision to do so “is honestly worse.”
The pregnant woman then detailed that her husband’s smell has “been so bad that I usually just get up when he comes to bed around 2/3am and either go sleep on the couch or get up for the day.”
She said that her husband “gets mad,” however, “when he wakes up and sees I’m not in bed or sleeping on the couch.”
“It came to a bit of a head last night when he came to bed reeking of body spray and smoke and tried to cuddle with me,” the woman continued. “I immediately started gagging because the smell was overpowering and tried to leave the room. I told him it’s temporary, but if he’s not willing to shower before bed we need to sleep in separate rooms because I cannot handle the smell right now.”
She added: “He got mad and grabbed all his things and locked himself in the guest bedroom. He’s been ignoring me all day and making things awkward walking around the house and talking to our toddler but avoiding eye contact, conversation, and keeping a wide berth from me. The only conversation we’ve had is ‘This is what you wanted right?’ ”
The pregnant woman concluded her post, stating, “I feel like it’s not a super unreasonable request to shower before coming to bed and I was willing to sleep in another room as well. … Should I just suck it up for a few weeks until everything balances back out? Pregnancy is weird guys.”
In the comments section, many agreed with the Redditor, as one user wrote, “Your husband is acting like a giant baby” while another said, “Your husband is very childish and very unsympathetic.”
One man, meanwhile, spoke from experience and said that he has always made time for his personal hygiene after coming home from work.
“I’m a dude and your husband sounds gross. I’ve worked in construction for several years and I constantly come home late at night smelling like dirt and sweat,” he said. “I’ve never once skipped a shower. It’s unhygienic. Tell your husband the men of the internet are judging the f— out of him for acting like a middle school boy who got his first can of Axe.”
