A Nigerian woman identified only as Nike has complained about being pregnant for a violent man,
Nike explained that she and the man has been together for about four years and he is so protective and possessive that he has become very jealous.
Telling her story in an email to Bunmi, a relationship expert on Vanguard, Nike claims that her lover is even more protective now that she is pregnant.
See her story below:
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“Dear Bunmi,
My boyfriend of four years is so possessive and jealous that I sometimes fear for my life. He thinks I’m having an affair if I just pop out to the market or if I stop to talk to a man—any man. I’ve left a few times only for us to make up again.
Now I’ve just found out I’m expecting a child for him and he’s ecstatic. Only, he’s got even more of a hold on me now. He watches me like a hawk and could be verbally abusive.
He doesn’t look like a man I want to spend the rest of my life with, but I don’t want an abortion. Please help.”
My boyfriend of four years is so possessive and jealous that I sometimes fear for my life. He thinks I’m having an affair if I just pop out to the market or if I stop to talk to a man—any man. I’ve left a few times only for us to make up again.
Now I’ve just found out I’m expecting a child for him and he’s ecstatic. Only, he’s got even more of a hold on me now. He watches me like a hawk and could be verbally abusive.
He doesn’t look like a man I want to spend the rest of my life with, but I don’t want an abortion. Please help.”
Nike, by e-mail.
After reading her story, Bunmi replied Nike’s letter.
Below is the reply:
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“Dear Nike,
Do you want your baby to be brought up in an abusive environment? Be firm with your man that you’re not putting up with his jealous and possessive behaviour any longer and if he carries on, walk out or enlist the help of people who can talk to him.
The problem with excessively jealous people is that they can’t change. Even when they’re with the ugliest partners, they still accuse them of two-timing. Life is too short to spend your life dodging the blows of a partner with a problem. ‘Think before you leap’ should be your watchword here.”
Do you want your baby to be brought up in an abusive environment? Be firm with your man that you’re not putting up with his jealous and possessive behaviour any longer and if he carries on, walk out or enlist the help of people who can talk to him.
The problem with excessively jealous people is that they can’t change. Even when they’re with the ugliest partners, they still accuse them of two-timing. Life is too short to spend your life dodging the blows of a partner with a problem. ‘Think before you leap’ should be your watchword here.”
Source: gistmania.com
